𝗪𝗢𝗥𝗗𝗦 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗕𝗨𝗜𝗟𝗗 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗠𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗜𝗔𝗚𝗘

WORDS THAT BUILD THE MARRIAGE
Speaking Grace in the Dispensation of Grace

INTRODUCTION

Marriage is not held together merely by emotions, romance, or compatibility—but by truth spoken in love.
In this present dispensation, God teaches distinct responsibilities for husbands and wives, and words are a primary tool God uses to edify, encourage, and strengthen the marriage bond.

Ephesians 5:22–33; Colossians 4:6 (KJV)
“Let your speech be alway with grace…”

① LOVE — Words That Affirm Affection
Ephesians 5:25; Titus 2:4 (KJV)

A. Love Spoken – “I love you” reassures the heart
B. Love Shown – Words confirm sacrificial action
C. Love Sustained – Verbal affection strengthens unity
Grace-filled love must be expressed, not assumed.

② LOYALTY — Words That Build Security
Proverbs 18:21; Colossians 3:14 (KJV)

A. Faithful Speech – No tearing down, no threats
B. Firm Commitment – Words that say, “I’m here”
C. Fear Removed – Assurance replaces insecurity
Grace speaks stability, not uncertainty.

③ LIFTING — Words of Encouragement
1 Thessalonians 5:11; Hebrews 3:13 (KJV)

A. Daily Edification – Encouragement prevents discouragement
B. Deliberate Praise – Build up, don’t belittle
C. Divine Pattern – God edifies before He corrects
Grace builds up before it ever corrects.

④ LEADERSHIP — Words That Guide Gently
Ephesians 5:23; Colossians 3:19 (KJV)

A. Loving Leadership (Husband) – Not harsh or domineering
B. Listening Leadership – Words shaped by understanding
C. Leading Like Christ – Sacrificial, not selfish
Grace leadership speaks with care, not control.

⑤ LANGUAGE — Words of Respect
Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:1–2 (KJV)

A. Respect Spoken (Wife) – “I respect you” strengthens men
B. Reverent Tone – Respect is felt through words
C. Relationship Strengthened – Honor invites leadership
Grace-filled respect empowers godly leadership.

⑥ LIBERATION — Words of Trust
Proverbs 31:11; 1 Corinthians 13:7 (KJV)

A. Trust Expressed – “I trust you” removes suspicion
B. Trust Extended – No constant accusation
C. Trust Evident – Faith over fear
Grace chooses trust unless truth proves otherwise.

⑦ LOOKING — Words of Appreciation
Colossians 3:15; Philippians 1:3 (KJV)

A. Thankful Speech – Gratitude softens hearts
B. Thoughtful Praise – “I appreciate you” matters
C. Thanking God Together – God-centered appreciation
Grace notices effort, not just outcomes.

⑧ LONGSUFFERING — Words Spoken in Patience
Colossians 3:12–13; Ephesians 4:2 (KJV)

A. Gentle Responses – Soft answers calm conflict
B. Grace Under Pressure – No rash speech
C. Forgiving Language – Words that heal, not wound
Grace slows speech and quickens mercy.

⑨ LIGHT — Words That Reflect Christ
Ephesians 4:29; Romans 15:2 (KJV)

A. Edifying Speech – For necessary building
B. Encouraging Purpose – That it may minister grace
C. Eternal Impact – Words reflect Christ to children
Grace-filled words display Christ in the home.

CALL TO ACTION

Speak love deliberately
Speak respect consistently
Speak grace continually
Ask daily:
“Lord, let my words build, not break.”
Ephesians 4:29 (KJV)

CONCLUSION

Marriage thrives where grace governs speech.
Not perfection—but gracious communication—keeps the bond strong.
Husbands: Speak love
Wives: Speak respect
Both: Speak grace

FINAL THOUGHTS

Love must be spoken
Loyalty creates safety
Encouragement builds strength
Leadership must be gentle
Respect empowers men
Trust removes fear
Appreciation multiplies joy
Patience preserves peace
Grace-filled words reflect Christ