𝗗𝗢𝗠𝗜𝗡𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗪𝗜𝗙𝗘 𝘃𝘀. 𝗦𝗨𝗕𝗠𝗜𝗦𝗦𝗜𝗩𝗘 𝗪𝗜𝗙𝗘

DOMINANT WIFE vs. SUBMISSIVE WIFE

Grace-Age Order in the Christian Home

INTRODUCTION

In this present dispensation of the grace of God (Eph. 3:2), God’s design for marriage is not cultural control or fleshly dominance, but Christ-centered order expressed through love and willing submission.

Paul’s epistles reveal how harmony flows when each role operates by grace, faith, and truth.
God’s order never devalues—it empowers.
Ephesians 5:21 (KJV)

① AUTHORITY — Control vs. Christ-Ordered Care
Ephesians 5:22–23; 1 Corinthians 11:3 (KJV)

A. Fleshly Control – Dominance seeks control over the husband
B. Faithful Cooperation – Submission works within God’s order
C. Christ’s Headship – Authority flows from Christ, not ego
Biblical submission aligns with Christ’s leadership.

② ATTENTION — Self-Focused vs. Spouse-Focused
Ephesians 5:33; Philippians 2:3–4 (KJV)

A. Self-Centered Mindset – Prioritizing personal desires
B. Sacrificial Concern – Considering the husband’s needs
C. Servant Spirit – Putting marriage above self
Grace shifts focus from self to service.

③ ATTITUDE — Dictating vs. Deferential
Proverbs 21:19; Colossians 3:18 (KJV)

A. Commanding Tone – Harsh and controlling speech
B. Cooperative Temper – Willing, gentle responses
C. Christlike Meekness – Strength under control
Submission is strength, not silence.

④ AFFECTION — Resentment vs. Respect
Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:1 (KJV)

A. Hidden Resentment – Resistance toward leadership
B. Honoring Respect – Esteeming the husband
C. Influential Conduct – Winning without words
Respect builds what rebellion breaks.

⑤ ALIGNMENT — Rebellion vs. Revelation
Titus 2:4–5; Romans 12:2 (KJV)

A. Cultural Influence – Worldly feminism shaping views
B. Scriptural Instruction – God’s Word defining roles
C. Renewed Mind – Submission embraced by faith
Right doctrine produces right living.

⑥ APPLICATION — Manipulation vs. Maturity
James 3:16–17; Galatians 5:22–23 (KJV)

A. Fleshly Tactics – Guilt, pressure, emotional control
B. Spiritual Fruit – Meekness, patience, faith
C. Mature Response – Walking in the Spirit
Grace matures relationships.

⑦ ATMOSPHERE — Contention vs. Calm
Proverbs 15:1; Romans 12:18 (KJV)

A. Strife-Filled Home – Constant tension and conflict
B. Peaceful Presence – Gentle spirit fosters unity
C. Christlike Climate – Peace rooted in grace
Peace is cultivated through humility.

⑧ ACCOUNTABILITY — Power Struggle vs. Partnership
Ephesians 5:24; 1 Corinthians 7:3–4 (KJV)

A. Competing Roles – Battling for control
B. Complementary Roles – Working together in order
C. Covenant Commitment – Mutual responsibility
God’s design creates partnership, not oppression.

⑨ AIM — Self-Rule vs. Savior’s Glory
Colossians 1:18; 1 Corinthians 10:31 (KJV)

A. Self-Exaltation – Seeking dominance
B. Servant Submission – Seeking Christ’s honor
C. Spiritual Testimony – Marriage reflecting Christ
The goal is not control—but Christ.

CALL TO ACTION

Reject worldly definitions of power
Embrace biblical order by grace
Let Christ rule the home
Let all things be done decently and in order — 1 Corinthians 14:40 (KJV)

CONCLUSION

A dominant wife disrupts God’s order by the flesh.
A submissive wife reflects Christ’s humility by faith.
Submission is not weakness—it is strength surrendered to God’s design.
Grace restores harmony where pride creates conflict.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Authority flows from Christ
Focus determines harmony
Tone reveals the heart
Respect strengthens marriage
Scripture defines roles
Maturity replaces manipulation
Peace follows humility
Partnership honors God
Christ must be glorified